We've all been told hundreds of times that we “can’t” do certain things. I, for example, am constantly reminded that I can never be a good role model until I win on tour. But what does winning have to do with the ability to positively contribute to the world? Being a “winner” often seems like the only way to earn respect. Whether it’s in sports, entertainment or business, this scenario seems to play out over and over again. Winning eclipses all transgressions — and if you’re not winning, you’re nothing. That’s just not right. The ability to act as a role model shouldn’t depend on owning a pile of trophies. Instead, we should look at role models as whole people — people who fail but overcome adversity, people who inspire us both on and off the course, people who spend their time trying to make their community a better place. For me, working with kids is one of my favorite ways to give back, and I refuse to let public opinion about whether I’m a “winner” stop me from being a positive role model and mentor. Likewise, I refuse to spread this common myth of success to younger generations. It’s only when we stop looking exclusively to the podium for our heroes and start looking all around us that we’ll make the greatest progress toward a better tomorrow.